I get married Thursday… it’s a lot to take in. It sneaks up on you. It’s not bad by any means, I’m marrying a wonderful girl, and I’m sure our life together will be very happy. Still, it’s a lot to take in.
I bought my suit, and picked it up during a torrential rainfall. I couldn’t see more than a few feet ahead of me, so I tossed the suit into the back of my car as quickly as I could while keeping it neat. Of course, when I got in my car, it slowed to a drizzle.
Go figure.
Anyway, here are my final thoughts as a single man:
Unlike a lot of people, I didn’t really get out there and ‘play the field.’ I’ve only had a couple girlfriends, and nothing beyond a date or two. I’ve spoken to people who feel I’ve missed something by not exploring while I had the chance. I guess I could lament on that, but I really don’t feel I missed a whole lot. I hate dancing, I hate going on those interview-like dates, I hated being set up, and I hated having to break up with people. Seems like one big ulcer waiting to happen.
Maybe they’re talking about the sex, which is entirely possible. I had the opportunity, but I didn’t want to do it with someone I didn’t love. Yes, I’m one of those old-fashioned fools, so kill me. Honestly, I don’t feel I missed out there either.
I’m going to walk down the aisle and not have any doubts about what I’m doing, which is all I could ever have asked for on my wedding day. I have a good, stable job, and I have a decent enough place (though I could ask for a better neighborhood), and I can provide for it all. I’ve grown past living paycheck to paycheck, and I honestly don’t worry about money.
Of course, I still treat my money as though I was still working at Wal-Mart, which is probably for the best. I am out of debt and loving it. I’m about to go on my first vacation ever, and get married in the process.
These past years have been some of the most turbulent of my life. If you said to me five years ago that I’d be working in IT and flying to Vegas to be married, I’d say you were out of your mind. Maybe this is all a grand hallucination, and I’ll wake up in my bed in my father’s basement, around noon, and put on the blue vest to work at Wal-Mart.
If that’s the case, I hope I never wake up.
Zel-kun out.
Julie Scott | 28-Apr-08 at 6:05 pm | Permalink
Man, I hope we can go!!! Not sure if that’s going to come together, but this sounds like a wonderful next step for both of you. As far as I can tell David has never regreted not playing the field first and I’m sure you won’t either. It’s overrated anyhow. =)
Hope to catch up with you in Lost Wages, but either way we won’t be there by wedding bell time, so you have our blessings!! And remember to say “I Do!”
David N. Scott | 29-Apr-08 at 9:46 pm | Permalink
I wouldn’t say, like, never ever ever. But not for very long or very rationally.
Congrats ZK and Zai! I still have some hopes of getting the quarterly bonus this week… could maybe work.
Marrying J still seemed like a big step even when we’d been together 2 years and known each other for 5ish, if that makes you feel any better. I was scared witless, for whatever reason. Pressure, I guess.